Where is the nervous system landing?
Our Inner Compass reflects where we are right now — not as a fixed type, but as a living gradient that shifts moment to moment based on how safe we feel.
Regulation through connection.
The nervous system settles. Empathy comes online. Thinking becomes flexible. Repair is possible.
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State determines capacity. What someone can perceive, feel, think, and do depends on where their nervous system lands.
Where the nervous system responds appropriately to safety and threat signals.
"Present. Grounded. Open. Able to listen without defending."
- +Wide perception — we notice more
- +Full emotional range
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"Alert. Reactive. Guarded. Ready to defend or escape."
- +Focused attention on danger
- +Quick reactions
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Where the nervous system has organized around chronic threat, losing flexibility.
"Calculating. Guarded. Managing. Watching for angles."
- +Strategic thinking
- +Ability to predict and plan
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"Entitled. Certain. Unable to feel the harm being caused."
- +Certainty
- +Sense of control through power
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A core insight from the Inner Compass
"Empathy doesn't disappear because someone is a bad person. It narrows — or goes offline — when the nervous system no longer feels safe enough to hold another person's experience."
This single idea reframes every confusing relationship dynamic: why someone who was once warm became cold, why some people can't hear you no matter how clearly you speak, and why you sometimes shut down in ways that surprise even yourself.
Key Insights
What changes when you understand nervous system states
Self-awareness is the key
It's a gradient, not boxes
It removes moral judgment
It's grounded in neuroscience
It explains why empathy disappears
Two lenses: You and They
What each mode page covers
Each of the four modes unfolds into a detailed exploration
Unlock the full Inner Compass
4 detailed mode pages, each with 7+ sections explaining how the nervous system works in that state — what opens, what closes, and what to do about it.
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