Detection Schema
The four-mode detection system uses validated psychological constructs from LIWC, Gottman's contempt research, Bandura's moral disengagement theory, and Porges' polyvagal markers.
Word Markers
weustogetherunderstandappreciatesupportcuriouswonderinginterestedhelpcarelovethanksgratefulsorry (genuine)hopewish
Pattern Markers
- • Collaborative questions: "what do you think?", "how can we?"
- • Acknowledgment phrases: "I hear you", "that makes sense"
- • Repair attempts: "let me try again", "I didn't mean"
- • Inclusive language: "our", "let's"
Word Markers
maybeperhapsmightpossiblysometimesworriedanxiousscarednervousuncertainjustonlysimplysorry (excessive)apologize (preemptive)
Pattern Markers
- • Hedging: "I could be wrong but"
- • Withdrawal: "I need space", "stepping back"
- • Escape language: "can't deal", "too much"
- • Self-blame: excessive self-criticism
Word Markers
shouldmusthave toneed tooughtalwaysnevereveryoneno onewrongrightcorrectproperappropriatebuthoweveractually
Pattern Markers
- • Demands: "you need to", "you have to"
- • Blame frames: "because you", "your fault"
- • Conditional love: "if you really loved me"
- • Invalidation: "you're overreacting", "that's not true"
Word Markers
stupididiotpatheticdisgustingworthlesscrazyinsanepsychomentaldeservepunishmentconsequence
Pattern Markers
- • Contempt: eye-rolling language, mockery
- • Dehumanization: "you people", "your kind"
- • Identity attacks: character, not behavior
- • Dismissal: "whatever", "I don't care"